Last night Logan bit Bella, this is really unusual as he adores her. Any attention he can get off her he soaks up like a sponge. The problem is that he doesn’t tend to read her very well and will keep on trying to play even when she is dead set against it. He is used to her lashing out at him and sometimes he welcomes her hitting him and will let her do it as she can find it funny. In these situations it’s really hard as they are both playing cooperatively however they’re using violence so I can’t let it carry on. Not reading signals is something I’m used to with Bella, she once got really annoyed at age two when I fell down the stairs holding a then baby Logan and didn’t immediately follow her into the lounge to put the TV on. Thankfully I was just winded (though I thought I was dying and Logan was unscathed) but she stood over me prodding me with the TV remote, bless!
I wasn’t in the room last night but came in to Bella’s cries of “Scary Witch” which is the new thing she cries when anything isn’t going her way. I think it’s from Toy Story 3 but you never can really tell with her. Both kids were sitting on the top bunk, Logan’s bed with ashen faces, Bella repeating “Scary Witch” over and over.
I knew Logan had done something wrong but it’s difficult discovering the truth when the only one who can properly talk to you is the one in the wrong.
“Tell me what happened Logan.”
“I don’t want to…” Not a great reaction and this went on for a while.
“Come on Logan, tell me what happened. I promise I won’t be angry.” This may have been a very, very hollow promise but Logan is extremely sensitive and will tell me how sad I make him if I raise my voice even a fraction…this happens quite frequently.
“I bit Bella.” His face was so sad I really struggled not to comfort him rather than his sister who was still scary witching him. It appears from his story that she kicked him and he got angry and so bit her, I hasten to add that it was a bloody painful looking bite too. I think he may have been holding in that resentment for some time.
I brought Bella down and comforted her to the point when she pushes me away (she has a very clear way of letting me know she’s had enough which usually involves hitting me or just pushing my face away, she’s such a doll!) I then comforted Logan too as by this point he was sobbing saying “Sorry Bella, sorry Bella.” I really couldn’t think of what to do other than give him a cuddle. He clearly knew that what he had done was wrong so further punishment would’ve seemed plain cruel.
Being brother and sister can be hard enough but one doesn’t really interact and the other is desperate for attention of any kind it can be a real juggling act. There will be more clashes in the future I’m sure but I’m seeing Bella choose to react, acknowledge and oblige Logan’s playful advances more and more and it’s really lovely…it may not last long and often ends badly but the moments in between are just magic!
Watching – So much Gotham…so much blood, I may need to watch some In The Night Garden to get over it!